I wasn’t born and raised in Sacramento, but I have so much love for this city. For our anniversary, instead of going out of town like we usually do, Justin and I decided to celebrate in the city where we met and fell in love. We spent our time wandering around and bumping in to friends all along the way. It was absolutely perfect. These shots were from our stroll along The R Street Corridor yesterday afternoon.
I’m originally from San Jose, and I moved out here over 20 years ago to attend Sac State. I figured the 2 hour drive was far enough for me to move away, but close enough to go back when I got homesick (which was often). My intention was to move back after I graduated college, where everything was familiar to me. Then... I met a boy. We all know what happens after that.
Thank goodness I’m still with that boy because over the years, I have grown fond for the city of trees. I have come to appreciate the sweltering summers as well as the cold, wet winters. During the fall, I challenge you to find a more picturesque view than downtown Sacramento with its beautiful trees full of colorful leaves.
As a mom of two, I love that there are family activities year round. Sacramento hosts the CA State Fair, the Farm to Fork festival, Old Sacramento, music events, and everyone wants “more cowbell” at a Sacramento Kings game. We have new developments like Downtown Commons and The Ice Blocks to explore as well as Midtown and The Handle District (my favorite place). If that wasn’t enough, Sacramento is just day trip away to the beach in one direction and the snow topped mountains in the other.
But to really get to know a city, you need to know the food. Sacramento celebrates its diversity in a plethora of cuisine. There are endless options whether you want a greasy spoon diner, casual dining with friends, or the most upscale, modern dishes you can imagine. Sacramento is great for date nights too.
This once “Cow Town” continues to grow and transform into a cultural and destination hub. It’s awesome when my friends from the Bay Area come to visit me for a weekend getaway. While San Jose will always hold a special place for so many reasons, Sacramento is definitely my home.
Ten years ago we made a commitment to each other in front of our friends and family. What’s funny is, that commitment was made many, many years prior. I was legitimately ready to make that commitment the moment I laid eyes on you. I saw you, and I knew I had to be with you. No lie. You know it’s true.
Sure, we had some “obstacles”. Those heartbreaking moments were practically unbearable. Yet, they were necessary for what we are today. And what are we today?
We are awesome parents that our kids look up to and want to hang out with. We are a romantic couple that still date and play grab ass. We steal kisses in the aisles of Target. We giggle over silly parenting situations. We smile over the domestic the bliss of our household. We can still party like a couple of twenty year olds (even though we are home well before midnight). We are more in love today than when we said our vows ten years ago.
Who knows where we will be in another ten years, but I’m looking forward to the journey there.
You keep me safe. I’ll keep you wild.
A little throwback to when the nights were a little warmer. While most of you will like this post and make super supportive positive comments, I hesitate sharing these pictures because I have been “mom shamed” before. But here is the thing... I don’t care anymore. I work really hard to stay in shape and live a healthy lifestyle. If I happen to be proud of my progress (especially after a trip to France) and want to share that pride, I will. I’ll be my my own #wcw 😊
I only hesitate because I hate the need to explain myself. I hesitate being on the defensive end of a conversation. I guess no one enjoys that. I hesitate because I know posting a picture of myself in a revealing outfit will welcome judgement.
I say... Bring. It. On. Go ahead, judge and mom shame away. It doesn’t matter to me and here’s why.
Parenting is freaking hard. Sometimes we have our rough moments, but the good ones make it all worth it (hopefully 😜). We are all doing our best. So before you ask me where my kids are on a Friday night (with their loving grandma), what I do all day as a stay at mom (helping people with their health goals and being my own boss), or what my kids think when I wear a short skirt (it doesn’t even register because I don’t make it an issue), just know that I make an huge effort everyday to teach my boys to be respectful of everyone, stand up for what they believe in, and be compassionate to those less fortunate.
What I wear has no bearing on my ability to raise my kids. It doesn’t matter if I wear baggy sweats, a business suit, or a bodycon dress with stilettos. I do what is best for my kids. I’m a good mom. Heck, I’m a great mom. My kids are happy, well adjusted, and kind to others. No one can or has the right to tell me otherwise. Not only am I proud of them, but they are proud of me. They genuinely think I’m a cool mom and it’s their opinion that matters to me most.
I wasn't always the trim, fit girl. In fact, I have spent most of my adult life tired and overweight. Growing up, I was never concerned about my weight. Sure, I was a chubby kid, but everyone told me it was a healthy look. When I set off to go to college, I didn't even think about the "Freshman 15". I should have because I gained a whole lot more than that. College was about staying up all night eating pizza and instant ramen while cramming for exams. Beer and sugary, alcoholic drinks flowed freely during nights of partying (sorry mom!). No one was there to tell me to ease off the potato chips or that four nights of Taco Bell was bad for me. I was young! I recovered quickly from no sleep, junk food and shots of tequila. That mentality carried over into my late 20's and early 30's. That's when my pant sizes really started to go up. By the time I was married and had two kids, I was 160lbs* and a size 14... a snug 14. Even with constant cups of coffee and snacking (on sugar), I was tired and hungry. I knew something had to change, or I would be miserable.
With the encouragement of my husband, Justin, we joined a family oriented gym. This was the start of my journey. Because I wasn't really familiar with gym equipment or weights, I started with group fitness classes and fell in love with Zumba. I studied dance all throughout high school and college. Zumba allowed me to get back into dancing on a regular basis. Since going to the gym made me feel better about being active, I knew I had to eat better so I wouldn't negate my time working out. I was able to lose about 30lbs and drop to a size 8 on my own.
I knew I had more work to do. I was still exhausted and took afternoon naps daily. Justin and I set out to make meal plans and lose weight together. He was (and continues to be) so supportive. We tried everything... meal replacement, NutriSystem, juice cleanses, low calorie and restrictive diets. It all worked, but it didn't last. We gained back all the weight we had lost because none of those diets were a lifestyle that we could have (or should have) maintained. We felt grumpy and deprived. At least I know I did.
So what changed it all?!?! We started cutting sugar and carbs out of our meals. It was tough at first. VERY TOUGH. I craved ice cream and hash browns constantly. With a little discipline and spousal accountability, the pounds started to come off. This type of meal plan may not work for everyone, but it worked for us and we were able to maintain it.
At the gym, I incorporated weight lifting into my workouts. This is when I started to SEE a difference. All of sudden there was a contour in the shape of my legs from building my quads and hamstrings. My arms, shoulders and back started to look more sculpted. I also started Plexus supplements, and this is when I could FEEL the difference. I was no longer dragging through my day. I was motivated and my workouts were more productive. I slept like a baby, woke up refreshed, had all day energy and was in a great mood. I was finally healthy.
What is it like today? I continue to dance and lift weights. I am a Plexus ambassador and share how the supplements helped me get and stay healthy while making an income doing it. It is the best job ever. My body no longer craves sugar and instead of feeling sad or deprived when I pass on a cookie, I happily reach for a handful of almonds. Does that mean I'm a total bore and wet blanket at dinner parties? Do I stare longingly when someone eats french fries? Not at all! I still indulge in the occasional treat of course, and I enjoy watching people enjoy their lives. I'm back to having carbs, and I know how to stay healthy with it.
There is a science to how I healed myself and allowed my body to lose weight, lose body fat, gain muscle and have more energy. Was it just one thing? No, it was a combination of nutrition, fitness, supplements, and discipline. Can it work for you? Absolutely.
* Not to say that 160lbs is overweight for everyone. It was overweight for my height and body frame. More importantly, it was the result of an unhealthy lifestyle.
I'm a cool mom... or at least I try really hard to be. I have a passion for health and fitness, and I love sharing with the world.