Earlier this week on the last day of a family vacation, I posted a picture that embodied a moment bliss and joy. I was relaxing in between a beautiful resort where my family was resting after some play at the pool and a beautiful beach with blue-green waters on the Caribbean Sea. The sun shining right above me and my favorite hat, there was a cool breeze to keep me refreshed, and I could hear the sounds of waves coming and going. Oh, and maybe I had a cocktail within reach. The best part was that it was captured by my adoring husband. If you haven’t seen the picture, it’s still there.
Why do I bring it up? Almost all of my friends are awesome. You like my #momlife shenanigans. You probably roll your eyes at mushy husband stuff I talk about. You laugh at my dorky posts. You ask me questions about style and food. You trust me with your health. You support my business in network marketing. You cheer me on when I perform. You even join me in these performances. You allow me to be genuine and embrace me for who I am. And if you don’t do these things, you have been gracious enough not to say anything negative to me.
All of you, except for one person. One person felt the need to make some pretty negative comments about a picture that captured a wonderful moment for me. I’m not going to go into detail about it because I’m not bothered by this one person. He/she doesn’t have an impact on my life. There is no real relationship there. I was going to just brush it under the rug and forget about it. Instead, I’m going to take this opportunity to spread a couple of thoughts of positivity from a negative encounter.
- No one is perfect, and no one has the perfect life no matter how much it may seem on social media. I always try to put my best, but genuine face forward. I try not to over filter/facetune my pictures. I would hate for someone to see me in real life and think, “She doesn’t look anything like her Instagram!” So yes, I will post a picture with a few crows feet, frizzy hair and no makeup. I will absolutely post a picture when I am not my most fit in a swimsuit. Trust me, I see the fluffiness! But that’s what I look like right now. While I will definitely make efforts to better myself, it really isn’t anyone’s else business, and I won’t apologize for it. Especially when the intent is show a happy moment. Don’t be afraid of your flaws. They either give you the opportunity to improve yourself, or allow you to embrace what makes you unique. And when you have that perspective, they aren’t really flaws are they?
- Everyone has a right to opinion and speak honestly. However, there is a lot to just being kind and decent. Unfortunately people that you barely know, can be cruel to you to make themselves feel better. The issue is an unhappiness or insecurity in them. Don’t let that spread to you. The only opinions that should matter to you are your own and of those that truly care about you.
I feel like making a call to action, and I want you to join me. I’m going to do more to positively impact peoples lives as many do mine. Whether it’s encouraging a new hairstyle, chatting over coffee, giving parenting advice, or supporting a new venture... I want my friends to know I think they are awesome. Again, so many of you are already so kind and supportive. Not just towards me but in general. Live your life for you and for those you love. Be kind, aware and considerate.
Don’t be afraid to take a happy, joyful snapshot in your swimsuit even though you aren’t in your best shape, and go ahead make it your profile picture so everyone can see how happy you were in that moment.
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